COUPLES THERAPY IN PERSON IN SAN FRANCISCO AND ONLINE ACROSS CA, MD, PA, ID & FL
Let's rebuild the intimacy, trust, and understanding that brought you together in the first place.
Because every relationship faces challenges—and every relationship deserves support.
No matter how many times you've tried to talk things through, nothing seems to change.
You might find yourselves having the same arguments on repeat often about forgotten plans, miscommunication, or one partner feeling like they're carrying too much of the mental load. Maybe you've stopped arguing altogether and now just feel distant. One or both of you might be thinking 'We're more like roommates than partners' or 'I don't know if we can get past this.' Patterns of blame and defensiveness can take over, with one partner feeling criticized and the other feeling exhausted. You're noticing less laughter, fewer meaningful conversations, and more resentment building around the same issues because reconnecting feels too hard when you're both hurting.
how i can help
You deserve a relationship where you feel heard, valued, and connected—and I can help you get there.
In our work together, we'll create a space where both of you can be honest about what's not working and start to understand why the same patterns keep repeating. Whether ADHD is part of your relationship or not, generic couples advice rarely cuts it. I'll help you break cycles of blame and defensiveness, communicate in ways that actually work for both of you, and rebuild the connection and partnership you're craving.
My approach is practical and focused on real change. You'll leave sessions with specific tools you can use right away, not just things to think about. Change is possible. You don't have to figure it out alone.
IN COUPLES THERAPY WE MAY WORK ON:
Effective communication - Learning to express needs clearly and listen actively—especially important when ADHD affects processing and memory
Conflict resolution - Developing healthy strategies to navigate disagreements about forgotten tasks, miscommunication, and unmet expectations without escalating
Rebuilding trust - Addressing hurt from broken promises, forgotten commitments, or feeling like you're not a priority, and creating a path forward together
Mutual understanding - Deepening empathy for each other's experiences, whether that's living with ADHD or being the partner who often feels overlooked
Managing life transitions - Navigating major changes like parenthood or career shifts as a united team, especially when ADHD makes change more difficult
Emotional and physical intimacy - Addressing how stress, emotional intensity, or feeling criticized affects closeness and connection in your relationship
Financial partnership - Aligning financial goals and creating money management systems that work for both partners' strengths and challenges
Division of responsibilities - Establishing fair distribution of household tasks and mental load without one partner becoming the "nag" and the other feeling constantly criticized
Breaking negative cycles - Identifying and interrupting patterns like parent-child dynamics, criticism-defensiveness, or the pursue-withdraw cycle
Strengthening commitment - Reconnecting with shared values, building systems that support your relationship, and creating a partnership based on understanding
Taking the first step is often the hardest.
Let's work together to help you and your partner understand each other more deeply and create lasting positive change in your relationship. By choosing to seek help, you're already choosing hope and showing your commitment to a better future together.
Ready to get started?